In the world of weddings, the couple is the supreme monarch, and whatever decree they enact for their wedding ceremony stands.
We’ve heard couples declare their wedding child-free, and rightfully get angry when a guest breaks this rule. And ‘extreme couples’ who tell their guests in advance the kind of wedding gifts they want, or this Groomzilla who had these rules for his wedding guests: no flat shoes, no visible tattoos, no piercing, and no unnatural hair dye.
Oh, and there was this couple who splurged on a luxury reception venue, and as a result, they had to self-cater. This means that if the rented plates and cutleries weren’t returned by the end of the evening, they would lose their deposit…. in a nutshell, ten of their wedding guests ended up washing the dishes.
And this one where the bride told the chief bridesmaid that her husband couldn’t come to the wedding, because it wouldn’t do well in the pictures, as the man was shorter than his wife. (The man was 5-foot-5 and his wife slightly taller)
The point of these stories is to emphasise that couples make rules for their wedding, sometimes stupid, sometimes extreme, sometimes exciting. And guests who do not like said rules have two options; either follow it, or not attend the wedding, like the chief bridesmaid above who told the bride she couldn’t attend the wedding without her husband.
Taking to Reddit, a young woman narrates a story of how the groom who was her older brother refused to have her in the pictures because she did not abide by the dress code.
“For whatever reason, they put on the invites that they wanted the guests to wear certain colours. The invites said the acceptable colours were Fuschia and sky blue. I asked my brother about it, and he said it was just something he and his fiancé wanted and thought it would be fun to have a colour-coordinated wedding.”
The young woman told her brother she didn’t own any cloth in that color, save black and white.
“I told my brother about this long before the wedding, and he just told me that I have plenty of time to find something that will fit the colour scheme. It was like he has no care for the fact that I don’t wear those colours at all. I complained about it to my parents, and my mom offered to take me shopping to find something to wear, and she told me it was just one day and that wearing something a different colour for a few hours is not going to kill me.”
“When we went shopping, I hated everything she made me try on, and she ended up just buying a couple of things in the two colours and brought them home.”
So this younger sister did not like any of the clothes her mother got her. So on the wedding day, she puts on her favourite black dress and hops to the wedding. Her parents had tried to get her to put on something else, but when she refused, they let her be.
“We arrived at the venue early for pictures, and my mom ran off right away to find my brother. I assume to warn him that I didn’t adhere to his colour scheme. So when we were doing family pictures, my brother made a point to tell me that I would not be involved in any of the larger group shots with the wedding party and the rest of our family.”
Her post garnered so many opinions, with majority criticizing her action.
Someone wrote, “In my family, you’d have been kicked out of the wedding. Black is for funerals, wearing all black to someone’s wedding is WISHING THE MARRIAGE DEATH. You’re mourning someone’s future. It is so tacky and tasteless. Black suits? Sure, that’s fine. All black suit, tie, dress shirt? Eeeh, here is a different colour tie. All black dress? That’s it, change, or we kick you out.”
There is no absolute guide for ‘what not to wear to a wedding,’ the best guide is to simply adhere to the dress code given by the couple.
Racheal Niza-Val is a Nigerian writer and author. She seeks to use her pen to do only three things. Entertain, Educate, and Enthrall.