Red flags are signals which help us know that a relationship is terribly wrong, so one can take the necessary precautions.
It happened that one young woman saw the red flag in her relationship… on the day of the wedding.
The 22 year old lady was a farmer’s daughter from Tikri village in Pratapgarh, who set to marry a man from Kutiliya Ahina village in India.
On the day of the wedding, the bride was all dolled up, looking beautiful and radiant in her wedding apparel, waiting for the groom and his baratis (a celebratory wedding procession that escorts the groom) to arrive.
Alas, when the groom and his baratis got to the wedding venue, they were stone drunk.
The bride and her family decided to tolerate the less than flattering entrance, but the groom who was already under the influence of alcohol totally misbehaved to his bride’s-to-be relatives.
Just before the Varmala (a ceremony where the couple exchange garlands which signifies the start of the wedding rituals), the groom drunkenly told the bride to dance with him. The bride refused, and he flared up in anger, making a scene in the presence of everyone.
It was this moment that the scales fell off the bride’s eyes, and she saw the big red flag flapping in the distance. She decided that she was not willing to put up with this kind of behavior for the rest of her life, so she came to a swift resolution and called off the wedding.
Her family was solidly behind her. They took hold of the groom and his baratis, and held them hostage in a room. Then they proceeded to tell the groom’s family that the gifts and cash given to them as dowry should be returned.
The police in Mandhata got wind of the proceedings and came to the scene. As soon as the groom’s family saw the police, they appealed to them to help beg the bride to change her mind. But the bride firmly refused; nothing was going to sway her decision, and her family reiterated that they should return the dowry.
After minutes of trying to persuade the bride whose mind was already fixed, the groom’s family accepted their fate and agreed to return the gifts to the bride’s family.
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Racheal Niza-Val is a Nigerian writer and author. She seeks to use her pen to do only three things. Entertain, Educate, and Enthrall.